On the left we have the lyrics from Robin Thicke’s Blurred Lines. On the right we have rape survivors participating in Project Unbreakable, showing the various things that were said to them by their rapist.
From the Mouths of Rapist: The Lyrics to Robin Thicke’s Blurred Lines
for people who are like “but it’s just a song…”
this is by far the most powerful photoset i’ve seen on this website with regards to blurred lines
I like being called a “good girl” in a sexual context. Lots of people do. Hey, Tom Petty’s “Free Falling” also calls a woman a “good girl”. Is that song bad?
"I know you want it" is POWERFULLY different from "You know you want it". But let’s go with that. Here, have a BILLION FUCKING SONGS that say “You/I know you want it”
Justin Bieber has a song that says “You know you want me,” are we getting mad at him?
"tear that ass in two" does not refer to anal sex necessarily.
I can’t even address the other one. It’s ridiculous. There are so many songs about liking it rough, liking it hurt, hurting so good, etc etc etc.
This is NOT me being a rape apologist. The video objectifies women, we get that. But as I’ve said time and time again, the lyrics are CLEARLY NOT ABOUT RAPE.
You know what? Let’s get into it.
OK now he was close, tried to domesticate you
But you’re an animal, baby, it’s in your nature
Just let me liberate you
Hey, hey, hey
You don’t need no papers
Hey, hey, hey
That man is not your maker
So here we have a man saying that, as opposed to the other guy she was with who wanted to tame/domesticate/keep her, he wants to free her and he reassures her that she doesn’t belong to any man.
"But he’s just being a skeeze so he can rape her!"
Is that really what the lyrics say, or is that solely in the context that you’ve already determined?
I hate these blurred lines
I know you want it
Guess what lines are? BOUNDARIES. That’s what pisses me off the MOST about people saying this song is about rape. He’s ACKNOWLEDGING THAT THERE ARE BOUNDARIES. In his eyes, they’re “blurred”.
"Yes, but they aren’t blurred, he’s just using that as an excuse to rape her!"
So that’s why he hates the boundaries? Guess what, guys who don’t give a shit about boundaries, surprise, don’t give a shit about boundaries. He hates the blurred lines because he thinks (“knows”) she wants it but he’s RESPECTING HER BOUNDARIES.
I know you want it
But you’re a good girl
The way you grab me
Must wanna get nasty
Go ahead, get at me
Here we have actual CONTEXT for the “good girl” comment. He’s not saying she’s a good girl for touching him, this is no reward or conditioning. He’s saying that he thinks she’s reluctant to explicitly share her interest because she’s a “good girl”. The next three lines are really fucking important. The way she grabs him makes him assume she wants to fuck.
No. It’s fucking not. Rape is when you fuck the girl because you assume she wants to fuck. Interpreting body language is not fucking rape. See that next line?
What’s his response to thinking she wants to fuck? Is it to fuck her? Is it to make a move?
He’s (gasp) INVITING HER TO MAKE A MOVE. He is GIVING HER THE INITIATIVE.
Even T.I.’s lyrics are not about rape. That bit about tearing her ass in two? What’s the line right before it?
So hit me up when you passing through
Once again, INVITING HER TO MAKE A MOVE. GIVING HER THE INITIATIVE.
Nothing like your last guy, he too square for you
He don’t smack that ass and pull your hair like that
Are we now going to say it’s rape if it involves ass-smacking and hair-pulling? Have you SEEN tumblr?
Here’s one of my favorite parts.
So I just watch and wait for you to salute
What does that say?
He’s WATCHING AND WAITING for HER TO SALUTE.
He has not only given her the initiative, he is EXPLICITLY SAYING that he is PASSIVELY WAITING FOR HER INVITATION.
Seriously. Comparing what these rape survivors went through to these song lyrics, honestly.
Is it just a song? Maybe. But even if it isn’t, next time actually LOOK AT THE LYRICS.
(Source: emhemingway, via viennaanneiv)